Strength with The Chariot

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Legacy of the Divine Tarot by Ciro Marchetti

This goes out to all the control freaks out there and to the control freak that lies within us all.

Control is like trying to grab an eel swimming through an aquarium full of vegetable oil. It elusively works against itself. The harder we work at asserting control over any situation the less control we actually have over it.

Think of the times when we felt if we could only get everything in order, if we could get everyone to cooperate with the plan (the plan of course being our own plan), if we could get all the pieces to stay in one place. We feel like we’re trying to figure out how many dollars we have but we’re trying to stack it into neat piles while in a wind tunnel.

The less control we feel like we have, the harder we work at maintaining control. We apply a greater assertion of our will, we lay down more decrees and demands, we build a higher wall and a deeper moat to keep the critters more tightly contained and the predators at greater bay.

What we seem to fail to realize is that the more we exert our control, the less control we really have. It’s an ironic oxymoron wrapped in a contradictory dichotomy. Ever watch someone try to organize an event to their level of expectations that needs to be measured with a micrometer? They run around frantically, dashing from place to place, task to task, lackey to lackey like a pinball between bumpers. To step back and view the panorama of control corralling, it never appears they have much of it. In their attempt to have everything perfectly set and timed they behave like a mechanical whirling dervish that had coffee spilt on its motherboard.

To continue this concept of contradiction it is when we lighten the reins and loosen our grip that we exert the greatest control. True control is moving the greatest weight with the least effort. When we exert our will over others despite their wishes, our demands are met with inherent resistance beneath the surface, which maintains and accumulates pressure over time. However, when we align our will with the desires of others, we will find that we hardly need to exert much energy at all to accomplish what we desire.

True control is found in the midpoint of the fulcrum. It is found in the place of balance of any situation. On one hand, there is effort required on our part, but there is also required a release as well. It feels so counterintuitive to gain control by letting go, but this is all too often the case.

If we want to guide a situation in the direction of our intention, we have to not only know where to apply our energy, we have to understand where we need to pull our hands away from it. This points to the most often overlooked yet important aspect of maintaining control of any situation; it is in the act of self-control. It is knowing when our efforts are best applied and knowing the point of where our efforts yield very little. Beyond this point we are only applying our efforts to avoid feeling helpless when the situation is beyond our influence. We are simply reinforcing the illusion and expending our precious reserves. The practice of self-control has at its center the act of acceptance and allowing, which is one of the most challenging truths for any control freak to embrace.

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The Chariot

A man drives a chariot being pulle by two sphynxs, one black, one white, of which he controls
A man drives a chariot being pulle by two sphynxs, one black, one white, of which he controls

Manifesting our desired outcome is about recognizing a desire, setting an intention, then working toward the established goal. Throughout this process the true source of power is ourselves.

The desire realized is our own desire. We are the ones setting the intention for ourselves, and we are taking the action required to achieve our goal. Therefore, we are always in control and continually have total control over our journey.

At times circumstances may appear to be outside our purview. We may feel that external events have inserted themselves into our lives, leaving us with few to no options available to us. Yet there is never a time we are left without options. The truth is that the options to us may change and shift based on circumstances, but we still have choices. Nothing happens to us; rather, things happen, then we choose how to respond to the events that have occurred.

As long as our goals remain consistent with our desire, they are attainable. When a massive boulder lands on our path, it only serves as a block. It does not in and of itself demolish the goal. We may be able to move the boulder, climb over it, circumnavigate the boulder… there are always several options available to us as to how to move forward. The boulder has not taken away our ability to choose, it has only introduced a new set of choices we need to make in order to get past it and continue on our journey.

The only true impediment to any goal is when we make the choice to no longer pursue the goal. It is not external factors that have forced this choice upon us, it is us changing our intention, shifting our desire away from the one we once held. In that moment, we are employing our power to change our destiny to match a different desire, but the power continues to be, as it always has been, in our hands.

Four of Pentacles

Manifesting is a dynamic process. It is active. It is the process of creation, of filling space with that which we desire.

A crowned man holds tightly onto a large coin, two are trapped beneath his feet and one stands atop his head
A crowned man holds tightly onto a large coin, two are trapped beneath his feet and one stands atop his head

In order to attract abundance we need to have the space in our lives which the abundance can fill. We often need to release or let go of that which is taking up space in our lives in order to make room for new creations, for that which we wish to attract. Unfortunately we hold on too tightly to that which we have grown accustomed, even when it no longer serves its purpose or function. We may be holding onto these things because we cannot imagine life without them. The result of this thought process means we are not allowing ourselves to imagine life with the newness that will take the place of the old and outdated.

We may also find ourselves holding onto these things because we are afraid of feeling the emptiness if we let go. Desire is the same as wanting what we do not currently have, so reflexively we will hold onto anything simply to avoid feeling like we have nothing. We can benefit from adjusting our perspective, by redefining “nothing” as “available space” for that which we want to bring into our lives.

Space is not equated to emptiness, space is equated to availability. Plants grow best when they have room to spread their growth. Our lives likewise need room if we are to grow in our endeavors. We can only grab the brass ring once we can let go of that which we are gripping onto so tightly, that which we are afraid to lose that has likely exhausted its usefulness.