The old adage seek and you shall find may sound simple enough, but it isn’t as clear as it sounds. First, one needs to know what one is seeking. Sometimes that in and of itself is challenging enough to determine. Next, it doesn’t specify what one will find. It only says you shall find; it doesn’t say what.
Simply put, due to that fact that one is seeking something they will invariably find something. They may not find what they’re looking for, but in the process of seeking something will be unveiled. Sure, you’re sweeping the beach with your metal detector hoping to find that 15th century Spanish doubloon but in the process you dig down in the sand to discover the bedazzled Barbie blouse. You see, the saying doesn’t say seek and you shall find what you’re looking for.
The source of most any disappointment, when you distill it down, is the fact that our expectation has been dashed. We had envisioned and anticipated a particular outcome, but a different option was indicated on the rubber flapper once the wheel came to a stop. One can heed that broken advice and try to hope for the best, expect the worst in a vain attempt to circumvent disappointment but the hope and the expectation cancel each other out, in the same manner as a concert double-billing Rufus Wainwright and Korn.
Many people see Zen Buddhist principles as dull and unrealistic. They look at the idea of pure acceptance of any situation that arrives with the moment as tantamount to chanting Om while getting punched in the face. I like to think they realize the disappointment created from expectation is far worse that the reality of the outcome.
So right here and now I’m going to tell you the secret to life. The secret to life is that it’s a secret. We are soaking in a bit vat of mystery, all of us. We can’t know it, we can’t predict it, we can’t control it. I will go so far as to say it’s the mystery of life that actually turns the gears of our reality. It’s the unknown that moves and drives everything forward. Everything we know to be real and true is a result of reaching deep down into the unformed vat of chaos and being surprised by what we pull to the surface of our being.
So when we find ourselves tired of not getting what we want, we need to simply stop and let things happen, then figure out what we want to do with what just happened. Embrace the mystery. Feed ourselves on the unrevealed. If we knew all the answers ahead of time, we would be so well acquainted with ennui that we wouldn’t see the point of being alive. There’s no better stimulation in life than not anticipating whatever is coming and letting the surprise light up all our senses.