So frequently in life we find ourselves at a crossroads, at a point where we need to make a big decision. Sometimes when we reach that point we have trouble deciding which road to take. We deliberate with ourselves, we weigh our options, we seek advice, all in hopes that we can gather enough information to be able to make an informed, well thought out decision.
What if I were to say that we already know which road we want to take by the time we reach the fork in the road? Our deliberation is not due to wanting one of two outcomes. Our most desired outcome always lies on only one of the two roads, and we already know which road takes us there. The ambivalence comes because we are trying to decide between pursuing what we want and avoiding what we don’t want.
Our desired outcomes are also our rewards. We are rewarding ourselves for overcoming adversity, for finding the courage to take on challenges that we did not know we even had the strength to face. We know that between where we stand at the crossroads and the destination of achievement is a journey fraught with obstacles and setbacks. It is these obstacles that we fear, these challenges that we dread having to face while on the road to our desired manifestation. It’s not that the other road holds something we want just as much; rather, it offers the false promises of less adversity, of not having to face the challenges we know will be before us on the road of our true calling.
The “easy” road is anything but easy. It is paved with the illusion of an escape from struggle and hard work. Yet this road actually offers a much more uncomfortable ride. Our complacency molded from our own fears would have us choose a road that will inevitably leave us unsatisfied, full of regret, chanting the mantra of lament: “What would my life be like if I had taken that other road?” The challenges we meet while on the road to our truest desires are only mild inconveniences compared to the encumbering burden of regret we carry on the easy road. It may have appeared that we had chosen the more painless path, but settling for the easy route is how we manifest dissatisfaction.
There are no two roads that offer us what we want; there is one road that offers us what we want and the other which we believe will allow us to avoid what we don’t want. In these cases we already know which road to take. The road toward what we want may appear to be the most challenging road, but in all actuality it is the safest.