Sometimes when we evaluate our progress toward creating the life we want, we may see it as being impeded by the actions of others. Perhaps our efforts at work seem to be eclipsed by a coworker whose work is more noteworthy. Maybe we are looking for support from a friend or family member but the wants or needs of another member of the group seem to overshadow our own. Or we might land an interview or an audition time and time again only to be trumped by someone more qualified or experienced.
At those times it may feel to us as if no matter how great our efforts or qualifications, there is someone who stands out ahead of us. We may believe that we simply need that edge to bump ourselves out in front of our competitors, the edge that they seem to possess, the one we lack.
The trouble with this perspective is we automatically disempower ourselves when we believe our fate is at the mercy of those that seem to be in a more advantageous position. Within every single one of us lies a myriad of skills, gifts, and talents which are unique to us, which can only be offered, presented, and utilized in a way intrinsic to our own individuality.
When we see our fate as being at the mercy of our competitors, we employ blinders that prevent us from seeing our own unique talents and skills. It is not that others are better, more talented, or even superior to us; it is merely that we allowed ourselves to overlook our unique gifts that would enable us to see the opportunity that is an ideal fit for us.
Successfully seizing an opportunity is akin to assembling a jigsaw puzzle. One piece does not fit into another because it is better than all the other pieces. It is because they are mutually receptive by design. We have more success figuring out where our own piece goes when we examine our own unique shape to determine where we truly fit best.