Elections are three days past and I’m still riding a wake of frustration.
Actually, I’m not frustrated with the outcome of the election. I’m frustrated with the level of frustration of people who do not care for the outcome. It’s frustrating to constantly see the Us vs. Them camps pitching their tents and tarps all over the political pundit parks. It’s the constant blaming a particular sect or party or affiliation of people for the condition of our country, for their perspective, for their disposition that is creating my frustration.
See what I just did? I blamed other people’s frustration for my frustration. I stand resolutely insistent that these people look at what they themselves can do to have the lives, the country, the political landscape they want. I insist that they take personal responsibility.
Meanwhile, I seem to be giving myself a pass in taking personal responsibility for my frustrations. I seem to have gotten permission from some unknown source to blame others for my own disposition.
What is actually the source of my own frustration? Where do I need to look to find the impetus to be a victim in this scenario? What is the blaming process trying to avoid having me do in terms of self examination? Generally the impetus for blame serves a perfect function to excuse one from having to take any action. As the minister of myself I have taken a vow to follow the modern-day reality-based equivalent of the Prime Directive. I shall not interfere in another’s life unless there is an apparent pending danger.
Am I refusing to see an apparent impending danger? Are there people in crisis that I’m turning a blind eye to? As individuals we can’t put on brightly colored tights and unitards and respond to every horrific news story with our capes flowing behind us, standing in front of a giant backdrop of an American flag. But we can, or at least I can, allow myself to take a step and move in the direction of compassion. I can state my beliefs without putting out any expectation that anyone else needs to adopt these same beliefs.
How can I best do that without prosthelytizing? Simply live those convictions. Be my belief system. If it’s working so well for me to the degree that it brings me peace I will not feel the need to implant those beliefs on anyone else. The higher my motivation to try to sway a crowd or to convert a morally indigenous people, the more that indicates I need to do some self examination. The message I’m intending to send out to the world is the one I need to hear. So I need to hear my own message, live my own beliefs, and embrace my own sermon until I feel at peace. Then I will accept and embrace all others in their own ways and beliefs.